When I was living in Tasmania I had the pleasure of Marrying a beautiful couple who lived out in the country near the historical village of Lilydale. They originally lived in different countries and had met online but this did not stop them from pursuing each other fiercely. After much travelling back and forth, they could no longer stand to be apart and a Wedding was announced. Silvia was coming to Australia to marry her sweetheart and I was honoured with the job of making it happen. Letters of support to overseas Consulates and Immigration Australia, translated birth certificates, so much paperwork but it finally came together and a very small and intimate Forest Garden Wedding was planned for the Spring.
The day came soon enough and it was (as always) absolutely perfect weather and the friends who gathered were a fabulous crew. We enjoyed a magical ceremony down by the dam at the bottom of a hillside littered with daffodils.
Everyone brought a yummy plate to share and most guests also brought an instrument to play.
The little forest glen echoed with music and laughter late into the night and it was a very memorable occasion (especially the long drop toilet-lol!)
Unfortunately the adults didn't get the same memo, but all the children dressed perfectly for the occasion.
I was surrounded by Superhero's, Fairies, Princesses and the wonder of Spring and of course, a lot of Love.
Full glamour or a bush party, as long as there is love, it will be perfect.
All you need is love xx
Not everyone chooses to use a reading in their Ceremony but its a great way to include a loved one who is otherwise not involved. They can be deep, witty, religious or just plain kooky.
Whatever you choose or dont choose, make it a good fit.
My favourite Wedding Ceremony reading;
Oh the places you’ll go by Dr. Suess
Today is your day.
You’re off to Great Places!
You’re off and away!
You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the guy who’ll decide where to go.
You’ll look up and down streets. Look’em over with care. About some you will say, “I don’t choose to go there.” With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet, you’re too smart to go down a not-so-good street.
And you may not find any you’ll want to go down. In that case, of course, you’ll head straight out of town. It’s opener there in the wide open air.
Out there things can happen and frequently do to people as brainy and footsy as you.
And when things start to happen, don’t worry. Don’t stew. Just go right along. You’ll start happening too.
Oh! The Places You’ll Go!
You’ll be on your way up!
You’ll be seeing great sights!
You’ll join the high fliers who soar to high heights.
You won’t lag behind, because you’ll have the speed. You’ll pass the whole gang and you’ll soon take the lead. Wherever you fly, you’ll be best of the best. Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.
Except when you don’t.
Because, sometimes, you won’t.
I’m sorry to say so but, sadly, it’s true that Bang-ups and Hang-ups can happen to you.
You can get all hung up in a prickle-ly perch. And your gang will fly on. You’ll be left in a Lurch.
You’ll come down from the Lurch with an unpleasant bump. And the chances are, then, that you’ll be in a Slump.
And when you’re in a Slump, you’re not in for much fun. Un-slumping yourself is not easily done.
You will come to a place where the streets are not marked. Some windows are lighted. But mostly they’re darked. A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin! Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in? How much can you lose? How much can you win?
And if you go in, should you turn left or right…or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite? Or go around back and sneak in from behind? Simple it’s not, I’m afraid you will find, for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.
You can get so confused that you’ll start in to race down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace and grind on for miles across weirdish wild space, headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place…for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go or a bus to come, or a plane to go or the mail to come, or the rain to go or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow or waiting around for a Yes or No or waiting for their hair to grow. Everyone is just waiting.
Waiting for the fish to bite or waiting for wind to fly a kite or waiting around for Friday night or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake or a pot to boil, or a Better Break or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants or a wig with curls, or Another Chance. Everyone is just waiting.
No! That’s not for you!
Somehow you’ll escape all that waiting and staying. You’ll find the bright places where Boom Bands are playing. With banner flip-flapping, once more you’ll ride high! Ready for anything under the sky. Ready because you’re that kind of a guy!
Oh, the places you’ll go! There is fun to be done! There are points to be scored. There are games to be won. And the magical things you can do with that ball will make you the winning-est winner of all. Fame! You’ll be famous as famous can be, with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.
Except when they don’t. Because, sometimes, they won’t.
I’m afraid that some times you’ll play lonely games too. Games you can’t win ‘cause you’ll play against you.
Whether you like it or not, Alone will be something you’ll be quite a lot.
And when you’re alone, there’s a very good chance you’ll meet things that scare you right out of your pants. There are some, down the road between hither and yon, that can scare you so much you won’t want to go on.
But on you will go though the weather be foul. On you will go though your enemies prowl. On you will go though the Hakken-Kraks howl. Onward up many a frightening creek, though your arms may get sore and your sneakers may leak. On and on you will hike. And I know you’ll hike far and face up to your problems whatever they are.
You’ll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You’ll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go. So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact and remember that Life’s a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left.
And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and ¾ percent guaranteed.)
Kid, you’ll move mountains!
So…be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray or Mordecai Ale Van Allen O’Shea, you’re off to Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So…get on your way!
Remember, Love is all you need xx
You know that age old "never work with kids or animals"? Who was the unfeeling, uncreative control freak who came up with that saying? Celebrants work with both, often, and you know what? I dont believe it can ever be a negative experience. Dogs, the more common four legged bridal party addition, fit in perfectly and Ive personally had no disasters. Horses can be a little less predictable but still an important family member and worthy of inclusion. Everyone loves animals, they are experts at being natural and helping people relax.
My absolute favourite heart melting moments at Marriage Ceremonies however, is when the Groom (who has lets face it, already had an emotion charged morning, may not have had much sleep and is generally in a well hidden state of mild panic) gets his first glimpse of the small people leading his Bride to stand beside him.
The moment the two adorable babes pictured above stumbled down the beach track and came into view of the man standing on my left, he went to pieces. He went to pieces in the most perfect way and it makes me a little teary remembering this beautiful moment when the depth of the day brought an otherwise cool character, to tears of joy and pride. Of course the Bride alone is usually capable of having this effect on most feeling Grooms but having children or fur-babies that you care about involved in your Wedding Ceremony is a joyous and beautiful element and should never be considered a risk. In fact, it is always perfect!
All you need is Love xx